1 step guide to telling the truth?

This is my blog, so let’s talk a little about me…

The previous post on the 3-step guide to a perfect lie looks very incriminating at the moment…

But the truth is this: For the last couple of months I’ve made the decision to try my best to be as honest as I can be.

It’s an attempt to make my life simpler, so I can focus on the things that truly matter instead of petty lies.

So, ladies and gentlemen of the jury, you have to believe me when I say that 3 steps guide was published because

1. I already had a draft of it

2. I was too lazy to write a new post

Now that this is out of the way,

Yes, I want to be more honest. It is crucial to be 100% with yourself; that is non-negotiable for me.

But when it comes to other people, it’s been getting a little tricky.

I can’t exactly tell my grandparents I am pursuing the goal of creating “the next big hit” to make millions.

To them, it will sound like I watched too many movies and want to chase “an impossible dream” like becoming an actor, artist or pro athlete.

Being an entrepreneur might just be even worse… it is somewhat more unconventional than the other professions I listed.

In that scenario, I try to only mention some truths.

I say what my side gigs are that I am working on or briefly explain my latest venture.

Technically I am still lying… And the worse kind: lying by omission. Playing around with words to that do not tell the direct truth or that leave out crucial details.

So this is that

Another scenario I am struggling with is the simple act of saying no.

“Hey, are you free to do X?”

I don’t really want to do X… Do I lie or say the hard cold truth?

Despite my best attempts, sometimes I choose the easier path instead of the right path.

Yeah saying “no” is a full answer and this and that,

But when you have to look at your little brother in the eyes and say you don’t want to play this video game with him,

We (or rather I) either give in or do something I am not necessarily happy about or lie because those are the simpler options.

Side note, saying “I had to do this” is ABSOLUTE BS.

Everyone makes the conscious choice to do the thing. No one forced you to go to uncle Joe’s crappy birthday party of , whom you don’t really like.

We have to be accountable for our actions. I won’t be using that excuse and neither should you.

Anyway, back to my lie free life.

How do I actually become more honest?

Yeahhh… This is the part of the post where I solve the situation…

Except there is no little tricks here, I simply have to be better…

One of my favorite Alex Harmozi quote is:

“Authenticity” is just a fancy word for alignment of three things:

1) What you really TRULY (and even controversially) believe

2) What you say

3) What you do

And most of us don’t do it because we’re afraid of what people will think of us if they knew what we really believe.”

When you truly believe that you value your time, you will not hesitate to decline Joe’s birthday party.

Truth simply stems from strong beliefs.

Truth is also vulnerability.

This sounds a little counterintuitive at first but it is the same as the definition of courage.

Courage is not to be fearless. It is to keep advancing despite the fear.

The ability to openly say no I don’t like uncle Joe despite the criticism you will face, is power.

It’s hard but that’s the TRUTH to being honest

It sounds arrogant to be preach you at the end of my posts but really, I am giving myself advice.

So here’s to me:

I lie sometimes still because it is easier than the truth.

I lie with the excuse of protecting myself, which ehh arguable.

I need to be better. Being authentic cannot be faked.

By the definition above, the one step guide is clear: Be better.

And you will have better thoughts, better things to say and will do better (without lies!)

That’s it for me; see you next week to talk about fuck off v/s fuck you money!